ave you ever driven a car with a stick shift? If so, you know that stepping on the clutch is absolutely crucial before shifting gears. If you forget that prerequisite, you’ll hear grinding noises that could cost you lots of money.
(I do realize this illustration sounds alien to some. You may have no idea what a “stick shift” is. How about this illustration instead: When it comes to performing a specific function on a computer, you need to press the “shift” key before pushing the F4 key. If you don’t, the F4 key performs a completely different function. That’s similar to what I mean. But the stepping-on-the-clutch-before-shifting-gears illustration has more drama to it.)
My point is that some actions require a preliminary step, without which you can’t accomplish your goal. In our day and age, when people have negative notions about religion, we may need to pave the way for gospel conversations before asking them where they’ll spend eternity or whether they know God personally or how they deal with their “sin problem.”
After Jesus asked a woman at a well for some water and conversed about why He would do such a culturally unusual thing, He then spoke about “living water” that springs “up to eternal life.” This dialogue paved the way for the good news that He was the Messiah and all that that entailed—such as some convicting insights about her moral failures and theological correction of her views about worship (see John 4:1–26).
Sometimes we need to pave the way for the gospel with words that prepare people to overcome prejudices, listen carefully, and hear accurately. Sometimes we need to step on the clutch before shifting gears. I can think of at least three different kinds of “clutches” we might want to use to pave the way for evangelistic dialogues with people we know and care about.
The Clutch of Permission
I know some people who need lead time before discussing heavy issues. They’re actually interested but probably won’t handle it well if someone just switches from light chatting about the weather to serious issues of eternity. And they’d appreciate being asked for an “okay” before making that dramatic leap.
I think there is wisdom in asking for permission before beginning the conversation. In some ways, it shows respect for the person and esteem for the topic. A permission question can sound something like this: “I wonder if you’d ever be up for talking about spiritual things. We’ve talked about a lot of other things. Would it be okay if we chatted about faith sometime?” In addition to showing people you don’t just want to force your agenda on them, it also shows you respect them, their time, and sensitivities.
The permission question also gives people time to think about what they really do believe. Between the time of asking for permission and actually having the faith conversation, some people open up to ideas they might just reject on the spot if they feel backed into a corner.
The Clutch of Tone
Let’s face it. Some people have strong feelings about faith, and they’re not always pleasant ones. A lot of our friends have had bad experiences in church, have read horror stories about abusive clergy, or think Christians are a bunch of “hypocrites.” On top of this, “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” and thus people “love darkness.” (see Rom. 3:23 and John 3:19).
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